The Hardest Part of Being a Fit-Mom

Being a mom is tough, and trying to get in shape when you’re a mom is even tougher. What do you think is the hardest part of being a fit-mom? Here are my Top 10 Major Challenges to our Success:

  1. Support
  2. Time/Organization
  3. Motivation
  4. Exhaustion
  5. Resources
  6. It feels impossible/Giving up on yourself
  7. Goals, that aren’t broken down into daily behaviors
  8. Guilt!!!!
  9. Becoming a mom, made you feel like your fit days were over
  10. It’s too much work


I wanted to share a glance of my real life-here’s a picture of me trying to workout. Does this look and sound familiar,” Mom, I want my stuffed animals, (see them all over the floor?), then I want to listen to Kidz Bop-I want to listen to my music, and even can I do that with you?” It can feel overwhelming and often frustrating, but when I look at my daughter I wouldn’t have it any other way! I think it’s important to recognize we’re all facing the same issues, so we can help each other feel supported and understood.

What do you think is, The Hardest Part of Being a Fit-Mom?

  • Kattsmeow77

    Guilt! I feel guilty for the time I spend away from my kids to workout :( but happy mom, happy kids, right?

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Yes, and I added it because it was my biggest hurdle! Along with time and how am I supposed to do everything I’m supposed to do! Thank you so much for

  • Nancy McGregor

    This made me laugh so hard. I couldn’t get to the gym due to Kitchen Remodel Madness, so I did my shoulder workout at home yesterday. I really wish I’d dragged my tired bottom to the gym because I had to not get in the way of the TV for teen, 11yo was finding it hilarious to join in, and my 6yo twins were playing catch with my stability ball.
    It always seems there’s not enough hours in the day to get everything done. I have no excuse now because I have gym equipment at home minus cardio machines but I can catch up on cardio anytime. So I’d say tiredness and time is my biggest struggle.

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      SO true! There are not enough hours in the day. I love your story, thank you for sharing!

      • Nancy McGregor

        You’re welcome, thanks :)

  • Pattyzariello

    Guilt. Sometimes I feel guilty for how much time is spent in the gym, preparing meals, or traveling to a show etc. But when they say “I’m so proud of you Mom” after a competition my heart skips a beat and I know it’s all good. After all there is nothing better than teaching by example.

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Patty, You’re an amazing role-model and this is such a gift to your children!

  • stevenmd

    Fit-Dad too! And a single one at that…

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Yes, and I added it because it was my biggest hurdle! Along with time and how am I supposed to do everything I’m supposed to do! Thank you so much for sharing. It’s so good to know we’re not alone.

  • Sundy Priv

    I agree with the music challenge, I now rock my ipod so she can shake her booty to Just Dance while I get my workout on. =) Working out together is key for us!

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Great! Music is my # 1 tool for motivation. :)

  • Stephanie

    This pic is so funny, Kim, mostly because I can totally relate! The other day I planned to go to the gym, but my 16 month old had other plans. My workout for the day consisted of a circuit style routine that I made up off the top of my head. I brought out my dumbells, and did my thing in the middle of the living room with my son watching, while Curious George was on TV in the background! It was hilarious, but sometimes you just “gotta do what ya gotta do”! I think the biggest trait that a Fit Mom needs to have is creativity and flexibility when it comes to your workouts because every now and then, your plan is guaranteed to go out the window, thanks to your kids!!

    Thanks for sharing your story, and showing the rest of us that you have the same struggles that we do!! You’re my #1 Fit Mom inspiration!

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Oh, I love how you said we need to have creativity and flexibility, this is so true! I find myself saying just do what you can do and make it happen. Love your attitude! Thank you for the compliment, it means a lot to me-more thank you know!

  • Rogina

    This is why I love reading your postings! Your top 10 would also be my top ten. Now that my kids are 13 and 9, it’s easier to get a workout in but I remember my “workout” area looking just like yours. Thanks for sharing!

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Thank you so much for the kind words and the encouragement down the road!:) I don’t think it’s ever easy, just different challenges with different ages?

  • Wendy

    Time is the hardest for me. There is just not enough hours in some days. I keep telling myself this is the only thing I do for me!

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Good for you, Wendy! Keep telling yourself that, because it’s so true! You need that time. Happy-Fit Mom=Happy-Fit Family! :)

  • Maria Madrigal

    For me the biggest hurdle is time/organization. This is what I just started and it seems to be working. I just started going to the gym at 5:00am daily as it is the only time I can consistently workout — I have a 3.5 year-old boy and a 3 month old little girl, so though I could go the gym later in the day and take them with me, it’s so much harder taking 3 people instead of 1, and I don’t like the idea of her going into the gym’s childcare center at only 3 months old. So, I hit the weights hard at this early hour, or do some kick-butt cardio at home while it’s still quiet in the house! This might not work for everyone, but for me, it works because a) it’s at a time when I very rarely have an interruption, b) I don’t feel guilty c) it is a time that’s just for me and I can count on it every day d) by the time kids get up, most of the time I’ve also showered and fully ready for the day! I find the days I am READY for my kids I am much happier than when I wake up TO them! The only challenge? Getting to bed early enough to get the proper rest I need! This picture Kim is so true! I would bet more fitness/figure/bikini competitors are without children vs. with as it is so much harder to achieve stellar physical condition when you are caring for others, especially young children (though I do not know this for a fact). It is hard to take care of yourself without being labeled as selfish, ESPECIALLY for women.

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      I love this post Maria, thank you so much for sharing your solution. It is also mine. If you don’t get it done before they wake up–most days you can forget it! Keep up the great work. I bet you’re an inspiration to many. Don’t forget about my Inspirational Mom feature:) You can always submit your info to be featured on my site-under fit moms and select share your story!

    • Crisia Santos

      This is sooo my story! keep up the good work Maria!

  • Missy_21234

    Having multiple kids – twice..three times the work.

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Wow, Missy! Thanks for the thought!

  • Belinda

    Gee, I can relate to this photo!!

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Right…isn’t it funny, because it’s so true! :)

  • Braunson77

    Love it SIC:)
    Keep inspiring!!!

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      I bet you got a good laugh! Can’t wait till you’re a fit-dad! You’re going to make an incredible one!

  • Angela Johnston

    All of the above – plus my workout room and her (my 3 year old) playroom is the same room. I do a lot of Kettlebell so I am always afraid she’s going to get behind me and get smacked with the kettlebell…..
    thanks for sharing your picture.

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      I always wonder that when I do Kettleworx! thanks for sharing! :)

  • Chavah Kinloch

    Yes! This is like a glimpse into my home too. Haha love it, thank you Kim.

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      I know, I love how real it all is. Nice to hear from you, Chavah! Happy New Year!

  • sandi

    My kids are older now however they will come downstairs while I am working out and smile and say Mom you look great. Right now my new cat is my issue she comes downstairs with me and attacks my weights but life is short so I enjoy my kids smiling and giving me that wonderful compliment or the kitty trying to distract me it is all so worth it to me – god bless

  • Anonymous

    I tried working out at home and I have no success – since my 2.5 year old is glued to me all the time :-) – thank goodness he loves the day care at the gym and is happy to go there. So exhaustion is my hardest part of being a mom – as my cute son still doesn’t sleep through the night. I go to the gym 4 – 5 times a week but I need to get my nutrition in higher gear – I think I eat healthy – but I am not achieving the results I want and I am working out hard – even with carpal tunnel syndrome in both hands and tendinitis in both arms from elbow down. I need to clean up my diet even more. :-)

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Monika, Thank you for the feedback. I’m sorry to hear about the issues in your arms!:( In regard to Nutrition, you will find the biggest changes in your body when you just what you said. Great to hear from you, and all the very best! Happy 2012!

  • Piperjanenoelle

    I do a mommy and me fitness class..that has been amazing for the guilt factor! We meet at a park 3 times a week and workout bootcamp style while pushing strollers and using kids as weights if needed

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Love Mommy and me classes, good for you! :)

  • Corley

    I think the guilt was the most difficult part in the beginning. But now I have realized I’m being a good role model for my children- now they believe exercise is just something you’re suppose to do. I think creating healthy habits/beliefs in young children early is so important.

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      This is so true, Corley! You and your family will greatly benefit from your healthy lifestyle!

  • Naomi_k

    Feeling Guilty for the headspace time it consumes as well as physical time. Im getting ready to compete for the first time and im soooo grumpy. I feel very mean. You look amazing Kim, very inspiring.

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Mentally competing is like going to war with yourself–try to remember and focus on what made you want to do it in the first place! I block out time that I give my daughter 100% of me, it’s good for both of us! I wish you all the best at your show! :)

  • Kim MacQueen

    Biggest challenge? Interruptions! It seems even the best-laid plans tend to get usurped by unexpected events…sudden illness, incidents around the house, kids needing rides or needing things dropped off at school, work or Dad’s…so I’m always having to think on my feet and switch gears in order to get things accomplished. Generally speaking I get less done than originally planned…frustrating. I’ve had to become less of a perfectionist, and consciously celebrate what I am able to accomplish and be thankful for it. :-/ ~kim~

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Oh this is so good and so true. You’ve got to learn to roll with it and let it go. Such great feedback, thank you Kim!

  • Sherri Langone

    It’s so funny you posted this! I just experienced this myself and remember thinking I wouldn’t want it any other way, ever! Even if one is just bouncing on the physio ball chatting away and the other is pretending to be me exercising,-I know in my heart they are learning the stepping stones to staying healthy and keeping active! As teen/tweens, they are up against so much in terms of peer pressure and lack of proper nutritional education in school. As a mom, I need to walk the walk rather than just talking the talk. While I know it can be hard to focus, its still quality time with them I cherish, and it can be so humorous too! Thanks so much for sharing!

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Love your attitude, Sherri. Thank you for sharing!

  • Crisia Santos

    Time! I need to get it done before everybody wakes up in the mornig. I have a 9 y/o special child who requires a lot of time and attention, a 3 y/o active boy and a 10 m/o baby girl. All in the house!!! so I have to wake up before 5 am to get some prayer/meditation, nurse the baby, get dressed and go, go, go! But it feels amazing!!

    • Kim Dolan Leto

      Good for you, you’re defintiely making it happen. I feel like a machine sometimes–my day sounds a lot like yours!:)

  • Jessica, I completely daughter jumps on me or gets in the got to the point where I start to think I got to work out before she wakes up, or after she falls asleep?!?!

  • Thene Bean

    DIET! when you’re eating REALLY clean, ya know spinach and tilapia and what-not. We don’t eat junk food in our house, but still, kids like a little snack and deserve to have indulgences.It is hard to stay on track and please everyone. (oh yeah, and add a husband to the picture)

  • Dawn

    I’m a single mom of 4 kids (3 at home. 8, 6 & 2 yrs old). Its all the above!! And trying to get a workout in when I got a 2 year old who thinks if mom is on the floor, that means wrestle time!

  • Rhiann0ne

    I know this all too well. But, I get my tush to the gym while my daugter is at school, than take her with me to the gym a few days a week. I get in some yoga, and she has a blast in the Kid’s Club. When my daughter was a baby, I just used her as my workout. Baby Sumo Squats are the best, and she always had a blast :)

  • Bamartin914

    nursing but trying to keep my milk suppy up when I work out to hard….I think you are an amazing inspiration to moms and think its obvious God had blessed you for showing others what is possible with faith.

  • Heather Ellis

    Time is definately the big one…exhaustion fits in there with it as I usually find time for myself by getting up before the sun. Guilt in being away from them more to go to the gym is also a struggle after working 40+ hours a week….the working Mom thing is a delicate balance.

  • Tabby Dunn

    I have a workout/playroom too! Sometimes Lyra likes to join in and workout like Mommy. She rides her giraffe bike or lifts her own little weights. She even makes up her own yoga poses. It does mean I often have Dora on during my treadmill time but at least I know I’ll have a healthy kid

  • Kathy

    Finding ‘me’ time. My kids always want a part of me and thats their right. After a full days work then I work evenings as a Personal Trainer I give them me – so I have to make my workouts fun and incorporate them or do it at night or early morning when they are still asleep :-)

  • Asilver

    Thanks for this quick post. It is very difficult to get the workouts in during waking hours of the children. They too are always climbing all over me and wanting to do what I do, it can be very frustrating and take three times longer to complete. With that being said, I am super happy that they are wanting to exercise, my daughter is 5 and my son 2. My daughter knows the importance of being fit and healthy and I love that.

  • Felps500

    A variety of fitness to not get bored when you can’t afford a gym membership/fit in the time to travel and get there.

  • Meg

    It has been hard to lose the belly fat after having a baby 9 months ago. I I have always been in shape and worked out but around the belly is just not going away. I’m 42. Any suggestions??

    • kimdolanleto

      Be patient and put the work in. It’s a slow process, but not an impossible one. Are you on a good plan?

  • ashika

    iam finding it so hard im a mum of 4 and it is hard you are an insperation, i would love to give what you do a go i just dont know were to start im 72kg and my little one had colic real bad so i stopped everthing and forgot about me. The hardest thing i find is no one gives advice away for free its like a maze you get lost in what nutrion you should have or exersise you should do i dont have $ for a good pt can you give me some good tips thanx so much i love the spritual fitness training too..

    • kimdolanleto

      I have my training and nutrition on my site. I think it’s important to not get wrapped up in what plan, but start incorporating exercise in your daily life and choosing food that is natural- not bagged and processed. I hope this helps. Please check out these topics within my site.